I suspect that a single cable size and 80A fuses are just the standard install package the DNO puts everywhere. As long as the cable is properly protected, then perhaps you can pull more load than you officially should, depending on how granular the feedback from the meter is.
OP here again.
Thanks for all the replies - I've now had a long chat with a very helpful chap at my DNO - you might be interested in what was said.
First, whilst I originally applied for 60kVA, that number was a shot in the dark as I had no idea what the cost would be so I thought of a number and doubled it (sort of). As it happens, for any application over 25kVA there's a hefty charge for the quotation itself so I changed the application to the lower number for which there is no charge for a quotation . I only wanted to add a heat pump and EV charge point to a domestic property -it wasn't for a Bit-Mining computer room or whatever.
So, as Electrochem said, the DNO has standard waveform underground cables which they use for "normal" jobs. I actually have another two 3 phase supplies feeding different buildings (so three in total) and have sole use of an 11KV transformer feeding a 100m long, 50mm o/d, aluminium three core cable. That splits into 32mm o/d cables going into the separate buildings. The now standard fitment (just about everywhere, I'm told) 80 amp Lawson fuses are at the end of every cable - even if the rating on the outside of the carrier says 100A - that's the rating of the fuse carrier, apparantly.
So, though I'd applied and paid for 25kVA (about 31kw using the 0.8 correction for real v apparent power) on my most recent connection I could potentially draw much more than that - a total of around 165kVA - over all three supplies.
The transformer, pictured below, shows a rating of 66.7 amps at 433v. With the numbers you've all quoted above I was concerned about unwittingly overloading my part of 'the grid' - hence the phone call to the DNO.
Whatever the potential overload actually is, the DNO works on several assumptions. First that not all potential loads are in use at anything like their maximum 80A per phase at the same time. Second, if they were, that the slow-blow 80A fuses and/or those at the transformer, would not blow at anything like their rating - it could be many (many, many) minutes at a much larger current before they would - I was told. And the transformer can handle much more than its rated maximum - even for some hours.
The moral? Rules (numbers in this case) are for fools and the guidance of wise men? I'm not sure whether I'm overly happy with that but, in my situation, if it all works in practice then so be it.
To widen the conversation, in talking to the DNO people installing my 3-phase supply, I think we have a time-bomb waiting to go off in our local electricity infrastructure. In 40 months time no new houses can have gas or oil heating - so, presumably, heat pumps for them plus all the other homes where people want to switch to electric heating. And in less than 9 years you won't be able to buy a diesel or petrol car - only hybrid or all-electric. And only all-electric cars in 14 years time. How many homes, streets, estates, towns have the supply capacity to accommodate this demand? None around me.