This sounds like a storm in a teacup. YOU don't have a 3 phase supply because YOU don't own the head, the DNO does. It's up to the them what they can supply you with, as Darkwood says even if all three phases are present there might be other single-phase consumers using all the available capacity on the ones you aren't.
Your description of the test 'The sparky tested all cables at the head each measuring 100 amp each' does not make sense electrically, so you might have confused the results. In any case that test involves tampering with equipment that is not yours and is possibly an offence to gain access inside.
If your supply is taken from an older network, there are various possibilities as to why what might first appear as a 3-phase service cable is actually not. Hence, possibly, the mismatch between your neutral connection and the phase markers.