Thanks for your reply but for clarification, I understand what you are saying if it’s at the power source of the first switch of the three way but in this case the single pole would be at the second switch of the three way, between the first and the lights. If I piggybacked off of the power there would the single pole not be controlled by the three way switches. Because there is no free hot wire.
ok just erase everything you are thinking and start over.
Lets use a water illustration.
I got a hose that comes from the backyard spout. I want to split the line. So I put a "Y" connector. then I run those two hoses straight to the same location across the backyard.
So now, Here I am holding two hoses, on the other side of my backyard. then I take another "Y"connector, shaped like a "Y", right?
I take those two hoses and connect it to the "Y"
that combines the water BACK into a single hose line, right?
well now I run that single hose to my tree!
Now why on earth did I just take a single line, split it into two lines, only to combine it back again into a single hose again?!
Well thats what a three way is doing. You take a single hot wire, and you place it on the black wire of the three way. (the three way is just like that "Y" hose connector) Then the three way splits it into two wires. so lets do that.
Take two wires (preferably the same colors so you wont be confused, but it doesnt HAVE to be)
take two wires and place it on the two Gold color screws on the three way.
Ok now we run those two wires in your hand All the way to your other location, and then we add another "Y" switch (aka, another three way switch) And then you take those two wires in your hand and connect them to the two gold color screws.
Now, just like the hose illustration, we have combined it BACK to being a single wire, and we do that by taking a wire and placing it on the BLACK screw.
Well now we take that single wire and connect it to the light.
What about the neutral? IT HAS ZERO TO DO WITH THIS.
It just has to be up there, waiting for you to finish all this.
So in the end, your light will have a neutral, and a single wire that came from that final "Y" switch