Feeling lost

[John Matrix]

Does anyone here ever feel like the job just isn’t for them anymore? I loved it when I was younger. But after 20 years I’m feeling very different about the job. Family life changes, new responsibilities at home arrive. And the working nights, working away etc takes its toll on the family life. I seem to have lost my way and very very unmotivated to do the job. I don’t get excited about it anymore and if anything it just brings a sense of panic and impending doom. Not sure where to go from here. Still off after Covid with no idea what direction to go in. Has anyone else felt like this?

 

[pirate]

Feeling lost is not a good feeling, and it's time to change...never underestimate the mental health benefits of doing something you love, something you look forward to every day. It's not easy to make the change. but once done life is good again. You do the job because it pays the bills, but one day you won't be able to do that...try to find something else, and do electrics for a charity in your spare time, to keep your hand in and to benefit others.
You will feel much better...
Good luck, and go for the change!

 

[John Matrix]

Feeling lost is not a good feeling, and it's time to change...never underestimate the mental health benefits of doing something you love, something you look forward to every day. It's not easy to make the change. but once done life is good again. You do the job because it pays the bills, but one day you won't be able to do that...try to find something else, and do electrics for a charity in your spare time, to keep your hand in and to benefit others.
You will feel much better...
Good luck, and go for the change!

I lm still not convinced I wana give it up. I think that because my health is not 100% I just have that on the brain instead of my job. I’m hoping once I sort out these issues I have I will feel more like doing the job. I have Hypogonadism. But having said that I’m not interested in travelling anymore.

 

[Dustydazzler]

is John Matrix your real name..?

pretty cool if it is ‘commando‘

 

[John Matrix]

is John Matrix your real name..?

pretty cool if it is ‘commando‘

Lol no mate. But the walls have ears. If if use an alias I can say things on here I wouldn’t want people Who know me to see. You get judged on everything you say in this game

 

[Mike Johnson]

And so you should be, you should not say anything on here that you would not say to someones face, a Forman of mine was asked once what I was like, he said "Mike will never stab you in the back, he will stab you full in the Chest".

You should have the strength of your own convictions.

 

[ipf]

And so you should be, you should not say anything on here that you would not say to someones face, a Forman of mine was asked once what I was like, he said "Mike will never stab you in the back, he will stab you full in the Chest".

You should have the strength of your own convictions.

In most situations, for sure. However, illness can have various effects and we should should always take that into account.

 

[John Matrix]

In most situations, for sure. However, illness can have various effects and we should should always take that into account.

Telling people in the industry about my past illness has been nothing but a hinderance. Done me no favours at all. So that’s why im the way I am

 

[cloverman]

John
There are a mixture of things that are having a big role in people's life at the moment, the covid 19, all the challenges at that brings, the work situation, fear of redundancy, not providing for your family and then you have on top of that your health, working nights will obviously not be helping your condition, the tiredness which in return makes you feel even more down in the dumbs etc.,
At present I would say to you first of, seek some medical advice before you make any rash decisions, there is a lot of support out there these days for people who may be feeling on a low ebb for whatever reason. Just to ensure that you are thinking straight and not suffering from mental health, be it on a short term basis.

Like a few others have stated, we all get fed up now and again with the same daily drag and people choose to deal with it in different ways, Like others on here have stated I have moved around a lot from job to job when i felt I had enough, fresh challenges and new ventures always seem to do it for me, even trying something completely different for short periods or a mixture.
Someone mentioned maintenance work earlier, that is a good filler, can still do some electrical work but also throw yourself into different trades occasionally on a multi- skilled basis, it's good to have a bit of variety in your life
IMO it helps to maintain a healthy body both physically and mentally
Good luck whatever direction you take

 

[John Matrix]

John
There are a mixture of things that are having a big role in people's life at the moment, the covid 19, all the challenges at that brings, the work situation, fear of redundancy, not providing for your family and then you have on top of that your health, working nights will obviously not be helping your condition, the tiredness which in return makes you feel even more down in the dumbs etc.,
At present I would say to you first of, seek some medical advice before you make any rash decisions, there is a lot of support out there these days for people who may be feeling on a low ebb for whatever reason. Just to ensure that you are thinking straight and not suffering from mental health, be it on a short term basis.

Like a few others have stated, we all get fed up now and again with the same daily drag and people choose to deal with it in different ways, Like others on here have stated I have moved around a lot from job to job when i felt I had enough, fresh challenges and new ventures always seem to do it for me, even trying something completely different for short periods or a mixture.
Someone mentioned maintenance work earlier, that is a good filler, can still do some electrical work but also throw yourself into different trades occasionally on a multi- skilled basis, it's good to have a bit of variety in your life
IMO it helps to maintain a healthy body both physically and mentally
Good luck whatever direction you take

Thanks mate. I have Hypogonadism which is causing a lot of it

 

[catdog1121]

Have you thought about coming off the tools and into some kind of design work or something? Im sure if you have a lot of experience it would not be the most difficult jump, would keep you in the same arena but be totally different?

Mental health is something blokes are useless at talking about. I spent years in IT service repair of high end server and storage, loved it at the start, by the end I hated it, hated the travel, hated the working at night etc, hated the office politics. Was so grumpy I was the obvious choice when it came to redundancies. Best thing that ever happened, had wanted to get into electrics for a while but never had the bottle to make the change, the nice payout I got meant I could retrain and start up self employed. I have some bad days, when your on your own and a job turns to rubbish, you end up basically out of pocket but then there are other days when people are really happy with what you have done, you have a sense of achievement and things have gone really well and quicker than you thought so you have made a decent wage.

 

[John Matrix]

Have you thought about coming off the tools and into some kind of design work or something? Im sure if you have a lot of experience it would not be the most difficult jump, would keep you in the same arena but be totally different?

Mental health is something blokes are useless at talking about. I spent years in IT service repair of high end server and storage, loved it at the start, by the end I hated it, hated the travel, hated the working at night etc, hated the office politics. Was so grumpy I was the obvious choice when it came to redundancies. Best thing that ever happened, had wanted to get into electrics for a while but never had the bottle to make the change, the nice payout I got meant I could retrain and start up self employed. I have some bad days, when your on your own and a job turns to rubbish, you end up basically out of pocket but then there are other days when people are really happy with what you have done, you have a sense of achievement and things have gone really well and quicker than you thought so you have made a decent wage.

It’s not depression as such. It’s Hypogonadism. And no I will never work in an office. I couldn’t think of anything worse

 

[catdog1121]

It’s not depression as such. It’s Hypogonadism. And no I will never work in an office. I couldn’t think of anything worse

Sorry, wasnt meaning your position obviously Hypogonadism is not mental health, I was more referring to other posts and in general should have said blokes dont like to talk about mental health or other health conditions that are not obvious or that most dont understand. (Every bloke loves to talk about his scars). My partner is retired though ill health with MS but a lot of people thinks she looks fine or dont understand what the symptoms are as it can vary from person to person and have differing stages.

Again apologies, Im not great at putting down what I mean so hope I didnt offend.

 

[ipf]

It's obviously having some mental affect though, unsurprisingly. Maybe a bit of discussion with a professional could help. It may well help to sort things out and maybe open up other avenues for you to explore. Hope you improve and work something out to suit although I know it's a bit awkward with the present national situation.

 

[John Matrix]

Sorry, wasnt meaning your position obviously Hypogonadism is not mental health, I was more referring to other posts and in general should have said blokes dont like to talk about mental health or other health conditions that are not obvious or that most dont understand. (Every bloke loves to talk about his scars). My partner is retired though ill health with MS but a lot of people thinks she looks fine or dont understand what the symptoms are as it can vary from person to person and have differing stages.

Again apologies, Im not great at putting down what I mean so hope I didnt offend.

No problem mate. It’s fine. It’s just a very misunderstood topic. Hypogonadism I mean. I’m sure once it’s sorted I’ll feel a lot better about everything