Hi everyone, I am an (almost) qualified female sparky and just thought I would weigh in with my 2 cents worth.
I work on building sites for a large electrical contractor and I don't expect to be treated differently from anyone else- If I was unable to do all aspects of the job then I wouldn't expect to still be employed. The other trades I work with are all friendly and positive and we all rub on together just fine. After working with me for a while they tend to come to me to sort out any problems and we cooperate well to make the work happen as efficiently as possible. People no longer run after me checking everything I do because they came to me me in the first place because they wanted it done right first time. Not because there is anything wrong with my collegues work but because I am mainly based there and know how they like things done. People like working with me because of my general attitude and professionalism, not because I am a woman.
People tend to like to tell me how nice it is to see a female sparky etc or ask me why I chose it as a career. (However did my lady brain come up with such an idea?!). I generally avoid such conversations because they make me feel a bit awkward. It generally comes out of the blue, when I am least expecting it and it always startles me a bit. This may come as a surprise to some people but I don't constantly walk around with the self awareness of my gender all the time in my brain. Do other people in other jobs? I pay attention to what I am doing. To be good at my profession I need to develop my knowledge, understanding and practical skills. I don't see myself as separate from my male colleagues- My team leaders never refer to my gender in conversations about our team with site managers. They have always referred to us as 'my lads'. If I work for someone who is at pains to bring up my gender just for the sake of it it does mean I enjoy working with them less. It doesn't affect my work. It's always a bit disheartening to have site managers start to say 'hi lads' and then look awkward and say 'and lady' as well. Especially when you've been working with them for a while. If I'd gone to work with nail varnish on then fair enough! But since I don't it's kind of annoying. Also it makes the conversation that little bit longer and as a trade I like keep my talks with site agents to a minimum and just get the damn job done! Am I right?! Maybe we should just invent a gender neutral word and then maybe no one would have to feel awkward.
Younger guys on site generally don't make the distinction or ask me about it. I like to think that it is because they are part of the up and coming generation who are more progressive in their thinking.
I know threads like this are well intentioned and for changes in attitude to happen the discussion needed to be had in the past but we are beyond that now. There have been drives to get more women into the industry generally and the enthusiasm has led to just trying to encourage any woman that's interested into the industry. Which ultimately is damaging to our reputation. The intention is grand but actually we should be encouraging the right women into the industry- the ones with the ability and skills. Not everyone gets to do every job they want to do. Ever. Otherwise we would all be astronauts and race car drivers
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The pathways for women to train and qualify exist- even though it may sometimes feel like we have to work harder to get there. If people think that that is unfair then they should go away and read the book 'the dip' by Seth Godin and then decide if that is really what they want to do.
I know 'are there any female sparks out there on our threads' is an innocent enough question and probably well intentioned but I think it inevitably just stirs up the haters which leads to the kind of discussion where everyone just gets a bit angry and frustrated because we all have our own lives and experiences which have shaped our opinions in the first place and some words on a forum are not going to change them. It also means that any female who is interested in becoming one will type a query into a search engine will end up reading negative opinions about what other people think about what she is thinking of doing before she has even started her journey which is not a good place to start. Would it be ok to start a thread with - any black/transsexual/gay/non British sparkies out there? Why don't you introduce yourselves?
I could tell you countless stories of where I have experienced sexism in the industry but it is not something I choose to focus on or spread. I choose to function on a daily basis as if it doesn't exist. Because it doesn't serve my needs or help me reach my goals. Think about it. If someone doesn't like you as a person and you know someone doesn't like you as a person do you let that affect your life in any way? Do you think to yourself 'Dave from (for example) football club doesn't like me - I won't play football there anymore. I won't get the same amount of enjoyment out of playing football if he's there. Of course u won't. You might not like him anyway. You may think the fact he is more successful with women and constantly banging on about how much he can bench press is just really dull'. Does it affect either of your passing or goal scoring ability? Of course it doesn't. Does it mean you won't socialise after the game? Probably. Or at least at opposite ends of the bar. Does it affect your overall happiness as a person?
It's a fact of life. If people choose to underestimate you or have a low opinion of you based on things like age, sex or race then so what. It's illegal to discriminate now. All everyone needs to do from now on is show up and do a damn good job and get suitably and fairly rewarded. Let's stop drawing attention to irrelevancies and just judge people on more important things like the colour of their hair or if you like their piercings or tattoos
Peace out