The alternator of mine (good battery) or the other car (bad battery) is likely to be the one that's damaged?The cheaper your leads ,the better chance of no damage !
( ECU's spike even with the correct polarity )
Is his alternator still charging ? (is a good question)...
May have shunted -power !
..If drains quickly over night
a) Battery now shot
b) Something is damaged and taking power when off.. Alternator classic