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So just looking for some advice as above.

I work in an office and have a senior engineer above me who feels that it is acceptable to speak to me in an aggressive and degrading manner who puts unnecessary pressure on me to complete tasks as fast as possible and then getting arsy when its not up to standard.

I have been in the industry for over 13 years and can honestly say that I have never been spoken to in this way even when I was on the tools as an apprentice (some would say I was lucky). The point is I am now an adult and expect to be spoken to with respect and NOT be treated like a child.

It is meant to be a professional environment but is far from it.

I took the job a few months ago and was told that I would have a senior engineer above me who would act as a mentor. But it is more like an old headmaster at a bording school who tries to crack the whip.

I have raised it my the Manager who told me that he does not understand why I have so much pressure put on me when I am still training and that he thinks that the senior engineer is just trying to throw his weight around as he has never been a manager before (and still isn't) and is trying to be one.

The Senior Engineer never says please or thank you and demands me to get out of my chair and 'come here'.

I will admit that I have started been more abrupt with him and answering back when he speaks to me like crap which prob infuriates him when the office is full but to be honest it infuriates me when he speaks to me like that in a full office.

I have found a number of errors in his work and pulled him up on it which he doesn't like but other ppl have agreed with him. Others in the office agree that its not acceptable how I am spoken to either.

Is it time to jump ship as I don't think ppl can really change and I need to be able to get on with him in order to learn but I find it very frustrating and its causing me to get stressed. I'm only young with a young family to think about.

I don't want to leave as I generally like it there and have only been there a few months and it wouldn't look good on my cv.

I took a massive pay cut to go work there as i was told that I would be trained up by a mentor and that it would be a good working environment with a good work life balance. I'm finding that not to be the case.

Any advice please
 
No and to be honest he would probably say that he doesn't. After a few weeks he told me to 'sit and shut up' and one of the Managers had a word with him. I also told him that I didn't like the way he speaks to me. But nothing has changed. I think, truthly, he doesn't like it when I question him. He gets muddled up with things, gets mixed with the what we have actually been asked to do, writes very poor emails and I sometimes point things out or question things which he doesn't like. If we are doing something wrong and something that the client hasn't asked for then I will speak up. I'm not one to just sit there and not speak up.
After seeing this reply I think he sees you as a --- who thinks he knows it all hense his snappy attitude, I think the pair of you need to go and have a coffee and try to break the ice.

That maybe so but if something is quite clearly wrong and could end up with the company getting in **** (which did happen on a job) then I think it needs to be highlighted. I'm not going to sit there and accept it. Where this has happened I have raised with ppl higher up who have told me to make the necessary changes then I get told by the senior engineer to leave it as he has not been officially told. Then he gets grumpy with me because I went over his head.
 
I like it. I think if I said 'let's go out side and settle it like men' I would get the sack if I said it in front of other ppl.
So you don't say it in front of other people!
Wait till he goes off to make a cuppa and follow him into the kitchen, make sure you stand between him and the door and ask for a few minutes to have a talk, making sure that you're the one doing the talking of course. You must maintain eye contact at all times (how you hold yourself in this situation is vital for this to succeed) you want to look like you're prepared to give him a kicking but relaxed about the prospect.
You then tell him how since you've started he's treat you like something he's trodden in and how it makes you bloody annoyed (don't say anything that gives him an advantage, it annoys you. That's it)
Then tell him the options
A sort it out like men after work one night
B sort it out like adults now because you don't think he's a bad person and you'd much prefer to just clear the air and find a way forward in your working relationship.
He'll take option B guaranteed
 
Remember that because this person is senior to you at work he is not your superior.
Whatever happens don't allow him to make you lose your dignity.
Make him a coffee and put a few drops of optrex in it.
He'll spend all day on the toilet and unless he's actually got you wiping his backside he'll be too busy to bother you.
 
Remember that because this person is senior to you at work he is not your superior.
Whatever happens don't allow him to make you lose your dignity.
Make him a coffee and put a few drops of optrex in it.
He'll spend all day on the toilet and unless he's actually got you wiping his backside he'll be too busy to bother you.
exlax is another brand
 
Hi atm84,

i think think that I have been at both ends of the situation you are describing although not in an office environment. I, like you, often question my seniors, simply so that I can get a better understanding myself. I think this can sometimes be taken as a challenge and if he is new to managing people he may feel you are questioning his suitability for his role (even if this is not your intention). From the other side of things it may be that he simply has not worked out how to manage people yet. It is a skill which you must learn. I personally have found that some people need a kick (because they are not interested) and others need a more adult approach. It is clear from your posts you care about the job and the company so an aggressive approach is not correct for you. He may not have worked this out yet. I think you definitely need to speak with him. Tell him you understand the pressure he is under. Tell him you are not questioning his knowledge you see him as a mentor and want to learn (massage his ego a bit). Tell him you are in his side. He sound like he may be insecure in his new role. Stress does funny things to people. Don't threaten him directly unless he threatens you , then you can ask him to step outside. I feel for you because I have been in similar situations and I personally have not handled them very well. Definitely avoid a punch up, this never ends well for anyone.

JameZZZ
 
That maybe so but if something is quite clearly wrong and could end up with the company getting in **** (which did happen on a job) then I think it needs to be highlighted. I'm not going to sit there and accept it. Where this has happened I have raised with ppl higher up who have told me to make the necessary changes then I get told by the senior engineer to leave it as he has not been officially told. Then he gets grumpy with me because I went over his head.

I am not suggesting you are a --- at all, but he may feel it his end
 
How big is the firm you work for, do you have an anti bullying policy?

Your way forward is: speak and email your complaint to your manager cc the guy who is giving you grief, his manager, the HR department,the H and S manager and if you are a TU member the union Rep. If you hear nothing within 7 working days, email the same people as before but this time address your email to the Person who has the overall responsibility over all parties.

You may have an employees Rep instead of a TU rep this would be your way out of not being in a TU member.

Bullying is not to be taken lightly, and most firms take a dim view of bullying and should act responsibly over this, I have to say though, that you have been wrong in responding to him in the same manner he treats you, 2 wrongs don't make a right, I was been a TU rep for about 6 years and I have dealt with many cases like yours, a last resort would be to seek an Employment Tribunal , which usually scares them to bits, as you could, depending on how serious the Tribunal takes the complaint, cost your firm money in the form of compensation, this does not happen every time.

Remember as daft as it sounds bullying constitutes a breakdown in H and S at work and although everyone has a responsibility for H and S issues the buck will stop at the head honcho's door, and could result in a personal fine for him.

Hope this helps
 

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