I'll answer your question but firstly do no presume to know what I believe to be true or what I do or don't understand.
That's been one of my biggest gripes with the remainer camp, or shall we now call them the 'rejoiners'?
It started the day after the referendum and it continues to this day... everyone who voted leave (and now who voted the Tories in on Thursday) is racist, uneducated, bigoted, inward looking, little Englander's, stupid and the list goes on.
The outpouring of grief on social media has been hilarious and it's going exactly the same way as it did after the referendum in 2016. Whenever a valid point is made against what they say we end up back in the gutter with personal insults. You're old, you shouldn't have been allowed to vote, you're racist, you're a fascist, you're a ---- etc. etc. and so it continues.
I didn't buy into any of the campaign rhetoric from either side in the referendum. My vote to leave was based on my own research about the EU, it's foundation, my life experiences of how the EU has impacted this country and the fact that successive governments have ceded power to unelected officials in Brussels. This is our country, I want the option to change the people making the laws that affect me and I want successive generations to have that option. I don't want future generations to be drones doing the bidding of Brussels.
As for the Scottish call for independence... I'm still staggered that those calling for it believe they will have independence if they join the EU. I might be missing something being a stupid uneducated leaver an all, but I just don't see how Independent can be used as an adjective for an EU member state, especially when the core goal of the EU is to form a federal superstate with all policy being made by unelected officials in Brussels. So if someone more educated than I (maybe a Labour or SNP voter, a remainer/rejoiner perhaps) fancies explaining it, I'd love to see the linguistic gymnastics you'll use to do it.