OP
Silly Sausage
Point 1: I still maintain that the circuit can be overloaded on the N conductor, as no-one has proven otherwise with 3 off socket outlet circuits as the point of use.
Point 2: I'm not talking about PF, here either, we are at least talking harmonics & distorted N currents, which you cannot ignore.
Whilst the simplification I posted earlier I agree may have been a little "too" simple at 60A due to the 3 x 20A phase currents, no one has proven as yet that this cannot happen, & I don't believe that anyone can, when the final loads are unknown!
Point 1:
Without posting my sketches, I'm convinced that the max current that Neutral will carry is one phase loaded and the other two unloaded, as many have already said.
Point 2:
On a few 13A SOs, would that really come into play?