there seems to be a significant lack of understanding of what I am trying to put across
I'm sorry Paul, but as you haven't answered my two questions, I can only summise that the only lack of understanding is on your part. The following quotes clearly demonstrate this:
each phase of the 20A TP mcb will carry 20A without "flagging" a fault, as each phase will be independent and all connected loads will be 1ph, all of the current WILL return down the N, resulting on 60A of N current, why is this so hard?
The N will have to take the sum of the single phase currents.
Then you have 1x2.5 N conductor carrying ALL the return current.
It is clear to me that at least towards the start of this discussion you had a clear and fundamental lack of understanding of three phase theory. It was only later when your argument started to fall on its backside that you had a rethink, realised that you were mistaken and then rather than just holding your hands up you proceeded to talk about non linear loads and harmonics in order to try and justify your already failing point. Even still, the effects caused by possible non linear loads on a 20A socket circuit have been proven to be negligable so even that part of your argument falls on its bum.
I can't calm down this is basic stuff!
I operate mostly as an Engineer, & consultant thus I am paid for my opinions
Yes, I agree, this is basic stuff, and YOU don't get it. If you are truly giving people this information and charging for it then this is where my respect for you starts to wane. Just because you charge people for consultation and have some sort of engineering background doesn't mean that you're perfect. We all get things wrong from time to time and believe it or not I even know 5WWs who know more than some of the CONSULTANTS at the IEE! And these guys with their completely flawed understanding of electrical theory are writing regulations!
What I respect more than anything, more than knowledge itself is integrity. You would have my ultimate admiration if you could sit there now, hold your hands up and say "you know what, at the start I got it wrong, my understanding was flawed and now it has been corrected. Thanks for pointing me in the right direction". Call me a cynic but I somehow doubt that is going to happen.
Back one final time to the OP, in this situation it is not impossible, but HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY improbable that the neutral conductor would ever be overloaded, and even then, the maximum possible overload that could occur (caused by 1x20A worth of PURE inductance on one phase) on the next sequential phase would be so small that it would easily be coped with considering that the cable is rated higher than 20A.
I like you Paul and I'm not going to sit here and slag you off, but you can't start belittling others (I appreciate you've already apologised for getting nasty earlier in the thread) for their lack of 'basic knowledge' on a subject when you have clearly demonstrated that you are prone to the same blonde moments as everyone else.