[My response is written black bold to items marked up in red - I am not shouting which is often the way bold is interpreted!]
So this is your definitive solution? The IR ? No. In my report (#162) at para 7 I wrote that 'I demonstrated an IR sensor which at least showed it had some potential to meet your requirements in paragraph 1'.
In earlier parts of our discussion we mentioned the use of arrays of opto-diodes to make a sensor which achieved the performance necessary to provide a dome-like sensing region. My SCM Mk3 is just an examplar of an element of such an array. There are of course many other ways of making the elements. Whatever elements are made their outputs will need to be combined - summed - to produce a signal Vs which is related to anything moving in the array's field of view. What can envisage the dome being constructed from many cones where each cone has one element or a patch of elements in an array.
Your light bean switch does not use the same optical mechanism for the detection of the hand - it relies on the sensor either seeing or not seeing the light emitted from the LED. The beam has to be blocked off from shining on the photodiode receiver to indicate the presence of the hand - Vs is a binary 1 or 0 output. In my IR sensors the light is reflected off the skin of the hand back to the photodiode - the amplitude of the reflected signal is indicative of the distance away. There is a threshold voltage Vt in the detection circuit. If Vs < Vt it is deemed the hand is not present but if Vs > Vt it is deemed the hand is present.
Your latest SCM is a completely different sensing technique which I do not need to explain again. It does not use the same principle; it uses electrostatic or if your prefer capacitive coupling between the antenna and the very high resistance input of the MOSFET to detect very small current flows between the hand and antenna. The problem with this technique is that the detection relies on very high sensitivity sensor because the current are so small - 10 to 100 microAmps. This makes it prone to a range of disturbances as I attempted to illustrate in my #161.
The current construction of your wings, the distributed layout, the exposed circuits and interconnecting wiring and proximity to relatively much much higher sources of potential lie the 220V ac mains - all combine to make it nearly impossible to avoid interference which causes random and unreliable functioning and as you have discovered damage to the MOSFET. Theoretically it is not impossible to use the technique of your SCM but you would have to re-start COMPLETELY your project to construct and interconnect the modules with a layout which minimises or avoid mains pick up and this includes the use of screened boxes and wires etcetera. This is why I reckoned you would prefer to 'bank' what works, dispense with what does not and tackle specifically a challenge to make a sensor using different techniques/technology. It is of course up to you what yo do. I have I hope been careful to explain my reasoning.
I actually did something similar, when I made the beam light switch. It used a normal led and a LDR back then. But this one now, is an upgrade to that. Is not the same configuration as my old one but is the same principle. So in a sense, what im saying is, that I've already did it as you now suggesting.
Of course, your new configuration approaches more to my semi-sphere concept and is superior from my original beam light switch. I will give it a try, but as you experimented already, the range is very small like 1-5cm if I'm correct. I want a range around 20-40 cm to be usable. That's 1 of the important points of this project. My SCM is able to reach to around 15cm with a small antena but I made tests a couple months ago with longer antena and I got like 50cm range with it. Now is a problem of electrostatic buildup, because the weather as discussed already in another forum, so the longer antena is damaging the gate of the transistor with voltage higher than its 20V permitted. What a sh*ty situation. Only happens to me. Maybe is good that it happens now and not later.
More than that, IR or led beams are liniar and not 3d or spherical as I want it. In other words, I have to HIT that line between the led and its LDR. That was the reason I abandoned the first projekt and started this upgraded one. This is actually it's upgrade. And even as you put it, with cones of light, I still have to target it, until I find it and then switching. Ugh... But is having potential and I did not try it yet and also did not give it my best as I do now with my SCM.
Do you see now, why I choose SCM over IR or LED ? It's logical, yes? Yes - without any further comment.